There are some songs that just make me realize how absolutely necessary the ministry of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood is for our churches and Christians today. Many people in our churches listen to country music (I know I’m not the only one)…and this is one of the songs they are now hearing: (thanks to newcomer Walker Hayes):
Well I’ve been a strong-willed son of a gun
Ever since I was suckin’ my thumb
But push came to shove
When I fell in love with my baby
Well you could say she’s overbearing
Matter fact she picked out the clothes that I’m wearing
And I can’t go fishing
Without her permission
But I ain’t complaining
We’ve got an arrangement
She can wear the pants
She can run the show
She can crack a whip
Like Indiana Jones
She can rule the roost
She can snap and holler
She can wear the pants
Long as I can take ’em off her
She calls the shots
Gives the orders
Makes the plans
That woman’s wish is my command
And I’m telling you
I got more honey-do’s
Than every fruit truck on 40
But I’ll get ’em done surely
Well she can push me around
But when the sun goes down
Look out theres a new sherrif in town
How typical is this in relatinships? Even though it may be typical, it is not Biblical. Here are three areas where this song doesn’t even begin to give a Biblical portrait of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.
1. Ephesians 5.15-33: Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
In this verse we see servanthood, humility, sacrifice, sanctification, respect, love, community. I don’t see any of those things in this song. What I see in this song is demand, selfishness, lack of leadership by the male in the relationship, dominance of sex in the relationship (meaning, its all about that).
2. Genesis 2.18-25: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
In this text, I see that the woman was created to be a helper to the man. This woman is the leader, the commander, the domineering one in this song.
3. 1 Peter 3.1-4: Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
In this text, I see the prescription for women to be: respectful, living with pure conduct, a gentle and quiet spirit. In the song sung by Hayes, I hear: “rules, snaps, commands,” – again domineering in every way.
You might be saying, Kim, this is just a song. And its not even a Christian song. Why make such a big deal out of it. This song goes against everything I am about. I am created by a loving God as a woman, dear to Him, made in His image, created to love Him and glorify Him in my being and in my attitudes. This song mocks at what I am created to do. God did not create women to be domineering, demanding, and in control over our husbands (even for the purpose of sex).
Does this mean I’ll stop listening to country music, no. But, again, like I’ve said before, I will listen to it with biblical ears. Taking every thought captive.