The second session on Sacred Parenting tonight was about fears. Here we go:
Sacred Parenting Session 2 – Gary Thomas
Providence Baptist Church
September 26, 2010
Mike led us in “Jesus Paid It All”. Again – the gospel. One of the lines is that my “lips shall still repeat”. Are we passing along the hope of the gospel to our children (Ps 78)?
The Hardest Hurt of All: How God Uses Parenting to Help Us Face Our Greatest FearsParenting takes courage. You become vulnerable – and it never ends. It will be with you until the day you die. There can be points of parenting that can be terrifying. Relationships really turn us into cowards. Parenting brings fear into our lives how it was never before. It is not just the life or death issues – but every situation we face.
God’s desire is for us to raise godly offspring. The adjective (godly) goes deeply into helping us deal with our fears. We don’t need to keep our kids in their immaturity and their hurts. We don’t need to over-protect our children from life. If they never get hurt, if they are never disappointed, if they never fail – they will never understand their need for a Savior. Our cowardice ruins or at least hurts our children.
Numbers 14.31-33: “But your little ones, who you said would become a prey, I will bring in, and they shall know the land that you have rejected. But as for you, your dead bodies shall fall in this wilderness. And your children shall be shepherds in the wilderness forty years and shall suffer for your faithlessness, until the last of your dead bodies lies in the wilderness.”
Our cowardice is a big deal to God. We tend to think of sin as the “big sins” – but God puts cowards in that same category. Rev 21.8 “But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
How much ministry or parenting never gets started because of the fear? When God calls folks out… “do not fear”. So many times in Scripture we see this. God says I have these amazing plans for you (Jeremiah, Abraham, Mary, etc)…but we gotta deal with your fear. Do not be afraid. I’m going to do something stunning, but don’t let your fear abort this. God calls us relatively early in life to face our fears by being parents. What else would there be to fear in life? God is building in us hearts to be used in powerful ways after the parenting years. The fears don’t have the hold on us like they have in the past. God doesn’t lead us into any situations that He does not go with us with His sustainable grace.
Fear is an American thing. Look throughout the decades before now: Y2K, Global Cooling, Global Warming, Killer Bees, the Cold War. The media goes from crisis to crisis. We live in constant fear. If we aren’t afraid – we aren’t fully alive. Fear motivates us. We have our marching orders from Jesus (Matthew 6.33) and this army can’t be cowering in fear. These marching orders are based on eternal principles. Our world wants us to ignore Jesus’ charge. John 14.27 commands us to not be afraid: Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”
As Christians we should not be fearful. Our children should not see us cowering with fear because of what we see in the world. To serve our children we need to become fearless people. Release your fears.